Being Yourself, Being a Free Spirit, Being Uniquely YOU


“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

The biggest challenge of living in this world is having the whole world mold you into something they want and you resisting to such unfairness. To free spirits, it is hard to accept being put in a box and have limited capabilities because we all have a divine purpose before coming into this planet and society’s expectations and our fear of being condemned hinders us from fulfilling our destiny. “Be yourself” is probably already a cliché to some people, an advice always given but not always heeded, but it is actually one of the key ingredients to living a successful and fulfilling life in this loving universe.

“…an artist should paint from the heart, and not always what people expect. Predictability often leads to the dullest work, in my opinion, and we have been bored stiff long enough I think.”
– E.A. Bucchianeri

The problem with humanity today is that most people usually count on their heads because they see their hearts as an idiotic and emotional organ that distracts them from reality. However, that is not the case. Listening to our hearts means giving serious attention to our intuition. Our right brain hemisphere actually is the part of our brain which knows the laws of this universe; so listening to it speak to us is like scanning a cheat book of life. I can’t even explain it; it just knows our souls and what it truly desires that our left brains cannot solve logically. So long story short, it is advisable to do things from our heart, not based on what society wants us to. Everything that we create (from artworks, writings, to whatever) is an extension of ourselves, so the best creations are those created from the heart.

 “When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.” – Lao Tzu
“The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white. Neither need you do anything but be yourself.” – Lao Tzu

“Being yourself” is not that hard sometimes, because you are already yourself from the moment that you are born. However, as we grow up, the world around us try to set up rules and regulations for us to live by, and we begin to understand that we have to act a certain way to please people and make them love us. But little children (probably up until the age of three) have an incredible sense of themselves. They don’t try hard but people adore them. Why? Because they are just being themselves. They don’t fear anything and they act according to their wishes. And like the quotes of Lao Tzu above, we don’t have to compare ourselves to others because it will only make us feel that we are lacking in some way which is certainly not true. I have loved Britney Spears since I was a little girl, but it doesn’t mean that I should already act like her because Britney is Britney and I am me. And I personally find it hard to imitate someone like her because I am shy and reserved by nature.

 “Don’t wish to be normal. Wish to be yourself. To the hilt. Find out what you’re best at, and develop it, and hopscotch your weaknesses. Wish to be great at whatever you are.”
– Lois McMaster Bujold

For those who have been called weird sometime in their lives and have been offended by it, YAY for you! Do not think that you were being rejected or scorned, because it only means that you are doing well in your job of being yourself. Embrace your quirks and imperfections, no matter how embarrassed you are of them. Embrace them as a part of yourself, and the world will embrace you as you truly are. If you’re just like everyone else, then what would be so special about you? And alongside accepting your weirdness and flaws, try strengthening your strengths more. Follow your passion. If you were blessed with painting, drawing, sculpting, cooking, singing, dancing, or whatever abilities, then go in that direction. Don’t ignore them – in fact, you should be cultivating your skills and try to be a better version of yourself. The ingredients for your own unique self is already within you, so the best option is to start loving and appreciating yourself. Don’t ever fall into the habit of constantly comparing yourself to others because everyone is amazing in their own ways.

“If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.”
– Frank Zappa

This may seem impossible but we have to let go of society’s expectations. We have to stop caring about what others think of us, really. These advices have been repeated over and over again but it’s hard because we dread having a bad reputation, right? The worst thing we can do is to hide behind the fear of judgment – because then we start to ignore our own needs and do things according to what we think would please people. Don’t put yourself inside a box and don’t ever let them do that to you because being free is your birthright. The Source has given us free will and that sacred thing should never be stepped on by others or their expectations of you.

We have to let go of the thought that we can only be loved and accepted if we act a certain way. Be aware that you are an infinite being. Be aware that you are here to explore, learn, and expand. You cannot do that if you are engulfed in fear and doing what you are not supposed to do. And you are not a robot, you are an amazing human being who can do things according to his own will. And that act of doing things against your will because of fear or playing safe will only make you a sad and lost human who has forgotten his true life purpose. Being yourself is also filling your own cup of happiness, as you love and accept yourself with all your might. It’s just that simple, we don’t have to try hard. And the last advice I can give you is again to be yourself, because no one can ever take your uniqueness away from you. :)

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