Men of the Zodiac

Disclaimer: I am not an astrologer, so this post is only based on my personal observations and experiences. Again, these are just my opinions, so you can choose to not take this seriously ;)

Aries Man

Aljur Abrenica

(I haven’t had many interactions with Aries men so I don’t know what to say about them yet.)

Taurus Man

Onemig Bondoc

The Taurus man is usually very handsome, but also very stubborn. I haven’t met a Taurus man that I can get along with. He will always insist on what he thinks is right, will disregard your opinion even though you’re also right. He wants to control things. Rarely open-minded. He can also be too prideful and arrogant, and never ever admit his (obvious) mistakes. However, when he is in his pleasant, Venusian mood, he is nice to be with. Beauty is very important for him. This man can be very loyal, loving, stable, and sensual - in short, the perfect man, if you are okay with his stubbornness.

Gemini Man

Andrew Schimmer

They are very talkative and fun to be with. However, almost all Gemini men I know cheat. They also lie, and make up stuff just to impress you and feel that you are inferior to them. They are tricksters and when you are with them, you don’t always see or hear the truth.

Cancer Man

Jake Vargas

These men are very sweet and emotional. They can really baby you. You’d fall in love with how they nurture you. They nurture the people that they love, but sometimes I think that that’s also how they seduce someone. As you form a relationship with them, most of the time they’re still thinking about their ex. They may be in love with their ex even though they’re with another woman already. And when you become their ex, they may try to come back to you many times even though for you it’s really over. When they make a mistake or something goes wrong, they use this form of manipulation wherein you would always look like the bad guy and that you should always feel sorry for them, even though they are the ones in the wrong. They’re manipulative in that way. They would turn around the situation and they get away with their mistakes by making you feel sorry for them.

Leo Man

Dingdong Dantes

Leo men are very charming. Women like them. They want a woman that they can show off to other people. However, when people make up rumors about you that are not true in order to turn him off, he will really drop you in a minute because he doesn’t want to be infected with the “bad” reputation that you have. And when you become prettier in the years to come, he will remind people that you have been together just so he can perfume his name even though he has hurt you in the past.

Virgo Man

Jericho Rosales

A mature Virgo man is very trustworthy and reliable. He is looking for the woman that he can be with forever. So far, I love the energy of all the Virgo men that I have known, since they love to help, they want you to improve, they want the best for you, and he is a problem-fixer. They also have that mysterious aura, but a bit different from the aura of a Scorpio man. It's a reliable but mysterious aura.

Libra Man

Sam Concepcion

Libra men are charming, and are often the “pretty boys.” Most of the time, they have mastered the art of seduction. They will seduce you and you’d think that they wanted to have a serious relationship with you. And when you have fallen for their trap, they can just vanish and be mean to you. They can be really ruthless playboys underneath the sweet boy-next-door façade.

Scorpio Man

Alfred Vargas

They are attractive men with a mysterious aura. Sometimes, even though you know that they are playing you, you’d still want to be consumed by those hungry eyes. There’s just something magnetic about him. He doesn’t say a lot. And he always seems to understand whatever problems you have.

Sagittarius Man

Mark Herras

They don’t usually like to commit. They like to dabble on many women at once. It’s hard to make them commit to you, but when they do – uhm…they still would cheat on you. If they are really in love with you, he may just use other women for sex. But it’s still cheating. I think they’re good people deep down inside, but they can’t resist temptation. The Sagittarius man also loves to teach. Therefore, his ego might be bruised when you are smarter than him, when he can’t understand what you say, and when you have a better educational background than him. He hates feeling dumb. He may get hurt and defensive if you accidentally make him feel dumb.

Capricorn Man

Alden Richards

I think the Capricorn man is the most serious and reliable of them all. If he wants you, he really wants you. What you see is what you get with this guy. He might prioritize building himself up at first, and might leave you if he still feels insufficient enough or not yet ready to be the father of your children.

Aquarius Man

Luis Alandy

They are very great friends to have around. However, I don’t think they really know how to handle a relationship very well. If you are their girlfriend, they will treat you very differently from their friends. Their love for you is conditional while their love for their friends is unconditional. They can be bad and nasty to you while being angelic in front of their friends. Therefore, when you reveal how nasty they were to you, nobody may believe you. Instead, they’d think that there’s something wrong with you because Mr. Aquarius is very friendly to everyone. I kind of think that they lack the emotional depth that is needed in a committed relationship. However, they are usually very loyal when committed, unless you are dealing with the kind of Aquarius man that has no conscience.

Pisces Man

JC De Vera

What I am about to say about Pisces men may not be that reliable since I only had one Pisces men whom I interacted with, and that was my former suitor. Pisces men are very sensitive that it’s really annoying. Even more annoying than Cancer men. They can say something offensive to you without considering your feelings. But when you retort with an equally offensive remark, he can throw a temper tantrum, suddenly block you, then beg for your forgiveness. He has a bit of a feminine temperament which can disappoint women sometimes. It can also feel like he doesn’t know what he wants. He can pursue you, control and manipulate you a bit, and not hear from him for a week or two. When you finally get tired or his flakiness and femininity, he would make you feel like a bad person for “hurting” him.

so you want to be a writer? by Charles Bukowski

if it doesn’t come bursting out of you
in spite of everything,
don’t do it.
unless it comes unasked out of your
heart and your mind and your mouth
and your gut,
don’t do it.
if you have to sit for hours
staring at your computer screen
or hunched over your
searching for words,
don’t do it.
if you’re doing it for money or
don’t do it.
if you have to sit there and
rewrite it again and again,
don’t do it.
if it’s hard work just thinking about doing it,
don’t do it.
if you’re trying to write like somebody else,
forget about it.

if you have to wait for it to roar out of
then wait patiently.
if it never does roar out of you,
do something else.

if you have to read it to your wife
or your girlfriend or your boyfriend
or your parents or to anybody at all,
you’re not ready.

don’t be like so many writers,
don’t be like so many thousands of
people who call themselves writers,
don’t be dull and boring and
pretentious, don’t be consumed with self-
the libraries of the world have
yawned themselves to
over your kind.
don’t add to that.
don’t do it.
unless it comes out of
your soul like a pocket,
unless being still would
drive you to madness or
suicide or murder,
don’t do it.
unless the sun inside you is
burning your gut,
don’t do it.

when it is truly time,
and if you have been chosen,
it will do it by
itself and it will keep doing it
until you die or it dies in you.

there is no other way.

and there never was.

The Philippines in the Sky (Dream)

Me: I dreamt that I was with my mother and we were looking at white dresses for my graduation. These dresses were only worth fifty pesos so I was happy about that and I asked by mother to buy me one. However, she did not want to. And I cannot understand why since the dresses were really cheap and they are exactly what the female graduates here wear. Then, we both went outside (it was already nighttime) in an open space where people were sitting on chairs. I am not sure what the event was, but the night sky has the map of the Philippines on it (instead of moon and stars) and it was very vivid. It was as if the Philippines itself was up there. It was a bit strange. Then, my mother asked me about Venus retrograde and Mercury retrograde. I explained to her and she agreed with what I said. Suddenly, there was lightning in the sky and some monkeys and other stuff were jumping in the sky, especially on the Philippine map.

Lawrence: Seeing the Philippines in the sky can mean you want more out of your life while living there
And you can see more opportunities when you see your country in the sky.
Mom not wanting to buy you the dress means she wants to make decisions for you instead of you making decisions, asking about astrology might mean she wants to know more about what you know about it.
I know your mother in life doesn’t know a thing about Mercury retrograde so that’s a weird dream, she knows that word, I think she would just ask about astrology period. Hmmm 

My Neptune in 5th House (Astrology)

I have Neptune in the 5th house, and I don’t know if it’s a good thing. Sometimes it is, sometimes it is not. This placement makes someone see life through rose-colored glasses, and be disillusioned in the matters of creativity and romance. But before I go on to my personal experience of having my natal Neptune in the 5th house, I have to share first what the internet says about this astrological placement. This is Neptune, according to Cafeastrology:
Neptune’s position by house in the natal chart (that is, the house that Neptune occupies in the birth chart) reveals an area of life where we tend to ignore or avoid reality. We attach spirituality to the areas of life ruled by the house. Often, we chase dreams and illusions in these areas of life.

I have it in my fifth house. Fifth house is the house of Leo, the house that rules creativity, romance, children, the inner child, and pleasure. Therefore, when the planet Neptune is placed there, this is how it manifests:

The indulgences will be rather trivial and transient. They will usually involve some kind of make-believe; nor are they likely to be particularly vigorous, still less violent, and they should fascinate temporarily, rather than create any serious interest.
The native whose native is in the fifth house will probably be very curious in the matter of love. He will fall in love with strange and curious people, and he will manifest his affections in a very unusual way. Spirituality of love is particularly indicated in the best cases.
Neptune in the 5th house often has strong acting ability, and this combination also indicates creative talent. The individual is usually highly romantic, and they can be enchanting and seductive as the siren. There is a longing and willingness to abandon the self and be swept away by love, and those with this placement are in love with love. However, the person has to be careful not to place romantic love on unrealistic pedestals or chase unavailable partners, and they often fall in love with the image of someone rather than the real person.
Neptune here can also manifest in the longing to have a child and to feel totally fulfilled. Neptune in this sphere may also suffer disappointment and disillusionment when lovers or even children fail to live up to their dreams. Various people with this combination get themselves involved in unobtainable love affairs, and they can be extremely easy to seduce. Yet, it is said that through sacrifice and suffering the artist emerges.
There are no boundaries where Neptune is placed, and so it is easy for them to enter into the imaginative and make-believe world of a child.

You are an imaginative and creative person with a strong sense of drama. You are inspired by art and feel compelled to express yourself in a fantastic or dramatic manner. You could be an excellent actor. You might also be an especially creative teacher or caregiver, perhaps drawn to helping children with special needs. You have an exceptionally strong need to be appreciated, particularly on romantic and creative levels. Your love life involves a lot of fantasy, and often your deep need for drama can lead you to see things that you want to see. Your romantic perceptions may not be accurate as a result.
And last but not the least, this is the description of Astrolocherry – and it is so far the most descriptive, and maybe accurate, description of the Neptune in the 5th house placement:
With misty Neptune clouding the fifth house of bedazzlement, the individual born under this starry array will seek to lose himself in the swirls of a paintbrush, the lyrics of song, the petals of romance and the ballad of the theatre. He may perceive himself as being an illusive character in the play of life, starring in his own divine showcase, and idealizing everything from love to his own self-image. This is curious mask makeup, role play in sexual fantasy and music written in psychotic states.
His redemption is creativity, art, affection and the trance of blinding lights. He is like a microcosm of the Divine Source, emanating the creative spirit that underpins all material and non material. His inner child is an extension of heaven.
Fifth house Neptune people are soaked in a rainbow bath of delight, hypnotic hallucination, mythical dreamwork and confusion about his own single consciousness. He is skilled at conjuring the riches of romance and experiences trouble attenuating own impulses when it comes to self amusement. The individual’s sense of beguilement in the world and the expression of his own inner child’s laughter symbolizes how he abandons the real world to escape in Neptune reverie and fugue.
Now, this is how I experience it.

Besides having a dominant Libra in my chart, I know that Neptune in the 5th house is also largely responsible for my idealism. I am very drawn to art – art that is kind of optimistic, whimsical, ethereal, and romantic. When listening to music, singing, painting, or acting, I feel very high. I feel like I automatically drown into Neptunian goodness. Through any creative endeavor, I can escape the ugliness of reality and dive into the portals of beauty that Neptune has to offer.

However, this Piscean/Neptunian escapism is not good for the long term. Dwelling too much in reveries and ideals and mental utopias results in procrastination and disasters in real life. With this placement, (perhaps also because of my Saturn in Pisces), it is so easy to fall back into my inner world, in my locked room, and be a hermit. It is very, very easy to get lost in dreams and illusions and not set out to make them a reality anymore. It’s good to connect to our own inner spiritual world, but sometimes, for the Neptune in the 5th person, the line between reality and fantasy gets blurry. The person can easily get deluded by his fantasies.

This is especially true in the romance department. I have been with men who are a bit “hopeless.” What I mean by that is that they are the complete opposite of the practical and highly ambitious Saturn – they are the hopeless, drunk, and destroyed kind of Neptune but thanks to my Neptune in the 5th house, I was so blinded when I fell in love with each of them. I saw each of them as different kinds of Greek gods, but in reality they were parasites and dependents who don’t have ambition, are not letting themselves get out of their victim mentality, paying more attention to temporary pleasures rather than their studies and potential careers, and are not having the ability to give me and my future children a bright future.

There is also something obviously wrong with me, since I can’t see my past lovers (or maybe even present and future lovers) for who they really are. That’s how Neptune works in the 5th house. I keep thinking that they are better than what they really are, and that they can still improve despite being unable to show that they want to be better versions of themselves. I am also very curious in romance. It’s strange how I think that every fling or relationship that I had is a different fairy tale every time. Yes, Neptune is crazy in that way. Because I have even involved myself with unavailable men: one is a very handsome man (but rotten inside, I’m sorry) who had a girlfriend at that time, while the other is a married British Arab who wanted me to become his second wife. Any sensible woman would steer clear of any man who’s taken, but I was still seduced. My Neptune in the 5th loved the mystery, secrecy, and challenge. However, in the end, I was still left heartbroken – which just made me drown deeper into the Neptunian madness.

Recently, what breaks my heart every time is being ghosted every now and then. However, I try to pretend that ghostings are not traumatic for me because they’d think that I was desperate. All I want is a serious relationship. Unfortunately, uncertainties in the romance department really distract me from the reality that I should be facing right now. I should be focused on finishing my research, studying more, and just planning my future career. However, when someone knocks on the door of my heart (this is getting corny), my Neptune in the 5th is just so curious about what might happen, what kind of world would be opened to me by this person, and so on. I just can’t get enough of romance. Although it confuses me (Neptune is also the planet of confusion), I still get happy sometimes because of my own fantasies and delusions.

And that is my Neptune in the 5th House. :)

Precious Little Boy (Poem)

My precious little boy
Was born on the virgin month.
Not my son, but someone
I’d like to have a son with –
Someday –
When he gets bigger and ripe.

I feel stupid, and it hurts
That I have given my heart to a baby
Who perhaps doesn’t even know what love is,
Or how to spell it,
Or perhaps still too innocent
To see that he is hurting me.

Still on his way to adulthood
I see how he is becoming
Aphrodite’s Adonis
And if ever I see Eros lurking somewhere
I’ll curse the brat for making me
Desire a baby –
A handsome baby, naïve, carefree
Too irresponsible in the matters of the heart.

My heart can’t decide whether
I’d wait for him to grow
Because by then it might be too late –
For a heart that’s been bruising for so long
Would be unable to love soon.
I am not his mother.
Although I’d love to be.

I jumped with my two feet
In this pool of love, beckoning him
But he is still taking baby steps
So unsure and insecure.

I don’t think I can wait anymore
For my precious little boy.

--- A. C.

My Elusive Career Path (Psychic Readings)

June 4, 2014

Me: Sorry for the silly question but how’s my sex appeal?
Him: Hi Anthea, your question is not silly.
I checked you out, you have a great sensual look, I’m sure you get hit on all the time J
You should try things related to acting, modeling.

December 24, 2014

Me: (asking a question about my dream)
Him: Hi, he wasn’t dressed as a wizard so he’s not a wizard at all even if it popped into your mind, it’s more to do with not liking members of your family tree and not wanting to be part of their lives really.
That’s my vibes on it, you should just be a famous actress in America J
Let me know if I helped
Happy Xmas
Me: Well I’d love to lol. Can I be a famous actress in America?
Him: Study acting and you will succeed. Take an acting workshop.

February 28, 2015

Me: What was my intention for coming to earth? What was my pre-birth intention? Can you tell me what that is specifically? Or if they are many, can you tell me what they are? Thank you so much for your answer.
Him: My vibes for you, you might want to work in communication area, which also includes acting, interior decorating, modeling, etc. Your soul likes to be alone a lot but also likes attention in small spurts.
Take acting class is the message I get, don’t worry if you’re shy,
You will enjoy it is my vibes. Your soul needs attention that’s positive.
Try it.
Let me know how it goes.

March 3, 2015

Me: Hi Lawrence J Thank you so much for your answer. Your answer really resonated with me J I’d love to be a star!
Him: Take an acting class somewhere and just go for it if you can.
You can do it
I have faith in you

April 30, 2015

Me: (question)
Him: My vibes is of course you can become like Britney but you need to sign up for acting classes, creative writing classes, etc etc. The problem I see is PROCRASTINATION. The successful women in life didn’t care what others thought of them. They just went for the success because they were able to FOCUS on that alone. If you focus on envy then I don’t think success like theirs is in the plans for you. Move on and try to just focus on you.

May 14, 2016

Me: Hi! I remember you telling me for the past year that I will enjoy acting. This Saturday, we will be performing on a stage. It will be a contest. And I will play a character that is important, a character that screams and leads and cries and gets angry. I know that it’s my time to shine but how do I do it? I have self-esteem problems.
Him: Hi, acting is so good for you. You will get through it, just follow directions and you will be fine on stage.
Me: We got 2nd place!!! <3
Him: Yes, you’re on the way. Acting is great for you. Keep it up, it has good rewards for you.

June 2, 2016

Me: My sister and I ran into our grade school teacher earlier. We missed each other and I missed my childhood in our little school back then. I also told her that I might apply for a teaching job at my former school. She liked it and said that I can definitely teach there! She said that they will immediately accept me after I graduate, and even before I pass the board exams for teachers. They want me there because I graduated there and because they already know my personality. They are really kind.  I’m sorry for asking another question but in your own opinion, is teaching the right path for me?
Him: The only problem I see there is that you might wonder too much what students think of you. Teaching is great if you can avoid worrying about other people and what they might think of you in class.
I still like acting for you, that feels good also.
Let me know if I helped. Mahalo

July 1, 2016

Me: I had a very bad dream last night about escaping from people who are pressuring me to take drugs but they have a strong hold on me. They are close people to me, although I do not recognize them now that I am awake. What could that mean?
Him: Hi A. Well that could mean you might be offered drugs from the wrong people who are going down the wrong road. Make sure you stay with people who don’t do drugs, they destroy their body and mind. Take some acting classes and have fun on stage, you can always escape in your mind to anywhere you want to be. Google astral travel – you can see videos of it on Youtube. Let me know if you like the journey

October 15, 2016

Me: Hello. Am I meant to do different things in this lifetime? I mean career-wise or service to the world? Or if not, what should be my main focus? What is my soul meant to learn here?
Him: You need to be around things related to entertainment. Acting, feels like you would get the attention you need. You’re not a 9 to 5 office worker. But I get the vibes you will be with someone who has money in life so you will be okay J Doesn’t matter if you’re shy, just take a class in it and see how it goes for you. You need people to pay attention to you.

October 17, 2016

Me: Hi it’s my birthday I just finished celebrating it with my friend by singing in the karaoke. Am I permitted to have another question? Because I want to know whether I have a future in singing. I love the attention given to me by people whenever I sing :D
Him: Hi A, Happy Birthday. Yes you won another free question. So you’re 21 now, I see J The same attention when you sing that you love would also be in acting as friends watch you perform later. You’re still so young so you may be shy about it but take a class somewhere down the road.

Some Daily Manifestations of Misogyny

Before, I was very resistant to feminism because of not having enough knowledge on it and having a biased stereotype that feminists are extremists and are man-haters. But because of having a literary undergrad thesis about the folk songs of my mother’s hometown and applying a feminist perspective on their analyses (it was my choice), I had the chance to read lots of books regarding feminism. I would be glad to write about my personal journey to feminism but this time, I want to talk about the misogynists that I have known so far and my personal struggles in a society that is still not leaning towards gender equality. I have always been drawn to feminine and womanly stuff that it eventually led me to feminism. And while I was being resistant to that ideology, I didn’t know that I was sometimes practicing it, that I needed it in my life, and that it needs to be pushed through for the welfare of my sisters around the world.

Beauty as a Measure of a Woman’s Worth

I only have a sister. We are of the same age range so we basically grew up in the same environment, circumstances, and influences. All my life, I have been compared to my sister because she is so popular. They also compare our beauty. While I was undergoing adolescence, these comparisons with my sister really get on my nerves. Why? Because the things they look at are so superficial: beauty and popularity. People wouldn’t even look at the different skills and expertise that we have. Society has imposed the idea on women that if you are not beautiful or attractive, you are basically worthless. My self-esteem was so wounded by that kind of standards imposed on women that I strived to be prettier to be okay with myself. I am now satisfied with how I look (I didn’t get any surgery lol) and gained more confidence but…

…when I managed to look nicer when I reached college, the boyfriends that I had mostly only wanted me for how I looked. I noticed that they didn’t really care about how I love poetry and singing and acting; they were just focused on my physical appearance. Most of them would even dictate what clothes I should wear, how I should wear my hair, and how curvy or fatter my body should be (I have a skinny body type) that I drove me crazy. My looks (or how I should look) were most of the time the reason of my quarrels with some of my ex-boyfriends. I was treated like a shallow person that should only be prized for how she looks.

However, society thinks so lowly of women that while we may think that beauty is a blessing, it can also be a curse. When women walk down the street to buy food or whatever, they get catcalled by ignorant men. It’s insulting, degrading, humiliating. What have we done to men to deserve that treatment? I don’t think it’s because they admire those women. I really don’t. It’s because these men lack respect in women. They think women are so inferior to them that they can do all they want to them even if it makes women uncomfortable. Women are sex objects and nothing more. If a man has a belief like this, then he is ignorant, uneducated, and immoral. If this is being a little too hateful, I’m sorry. But no woman likes to be disrespected just because she is a woman. And women are already so tired of being catcalled every single day.

Limited to Being Sex Objects

I’m sure that there are lots of women out there who were also misled by men who only wanted sex from them. I personally get triggered when people are seen on a shallow basis (e.g. their appearance or sexuality) instead of for who they really are. People are more than just how they look. People are more than their gender. Suddenly I remembered the tale of Beauty and the Beast – Belle is more than her beauty and the beast is more than just his monstrous look. He is a prince beneath that, and I wish in real life there would be more people who could see through one’s outer shell. Women are not walking boobs and pussies. They are people with a heart and soul.

I remember having an ex-boyfriend who had a very patriarchal, misogynist father. My family doesn’t like his father, and we initially hoped that the son wasn’t infected by his father’s rotten behavior. When my ex-boyfriend had a family outing, he made me come with them. While we were eating together, his father made dirty, sexual remarks about us, and how much we must love having sex (we did not, fortunately), and that my ex-boyfriend was lucky enough to be intimate (eww) with a girl like me. During that whole time, I was feeling like shit. I felt degraded. It was obvious how he sees women as sexual objects. When I broke up with the guy a month later, his misogynistic attitude that he was suppressing finally came out. He said that his family thinks that I am too liberated because I wear shorts, I go out with him at night (even though he initiates it), and because my parents are not too strict with me even though I am a girl. (I am not a party girl, so he basically wants me to be the domestic, submissive, slave type of woman.) He even went as far as calling me a slut and other degrading names for women. He resented me for being too free, too strong, too smart for him, too whatever. He didn’t like being threatened by a woman who is just being herself. Luckily I got rid of that kind of man right away.

Sexual Politics in Relationships

Even with all those misogynistic manifestations of patriarchy in my personal life that I complain about, I still consider myself lucky because compared to other women, I am not as oppressed. I haven’t experienced rape, incest, molestation, extreme restrictions, etc. Therefore, the next thing that I am going to say may sound a bit superficial: there is sexual politics in romantic relationships especially when the man is insensitive or ignorant enough to still hold on to the belief that men are superior to women in any way. In my experience, if boyfriends or suitors suddenly feel like they are not good enough, it’s either they resent me, try to make me feel inferior, or compete with me. Most of them just wanted to get the upper hand always. (I am not the domineering type of girlfriend, I promise.) However, sometimes, when a man does this to me, I suddenly realize that we are not equals. If they are so threatened by a woman, then it probably means that they haven’t developed in themselves the qualities of confidence and responsibility in order to feel secure in being with the opposite sex. Some men are so insecure that they project their insecurities onto women and make them think that there is something wrong with the women instead. The moment I sense that in a man, I leave. Because I have definitely learned to value myself more instead of lower my standards or serve the man who doesn’t even feel like a man enough.

Therefore, if being a bitch means valuing oneself, then I’d rather be a bitch than a servant of some little boy who can’t even protect me from the cruel world. Whenever I encounter a misogynist nowadays, I realize that aside from being stupid enough to hold on to a traditional belief that women are subordinate to men, they are projecting their insecurities to women which results in women feeling bad about themselves. Feminism pushed me to value myself a little more, and not settle for less. We were never made to be inferior to men, despite the Genesis bullshit that people use in arguing why Eve should be subordinate to Adam. J
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